3 Reasons to Say No As an Empath
THREE REASONS SAYING NO IS A GOOD IDEA 😮
1️⃣ Saying no is a part of good self care. When you're able to say no to people, then you are able to really figure out what you want to say yes to and what you don't want to say yes to.
2️⃣ When you're attempting to save other people from their pain, you're actually disabling them, and not doing them a service. What I mean by that is oftentimes as empaths, we are able and capable of jumping in and fixing things and a lot of times we do. The problem with that is, we are circumventing the person from having their experience, which can be a healthy learning experience (even painful ones)
In therapy I often use the example (if you have children, you will understand this), if we keep our babies in a walker and we try to prevent them from ever falling and bumping their head or skimming their knee, we are actually preventing them from learning. There's a reason toddlers have these great big alien heads, it's because they need to fall, and when they fall and bump their head, they experience pain. It allows them to get back up, figure out how to readjust and to avoid the pain.
Emotions can sometimes be like that, and as empaths, we often want to save people from those emotions because we feel their pain so deeply. The problem is, non-empathic people often pick themselves up easier than us. They don't have as low of a pain threshold, and when we help them avoid their pain, then we're actually disabling people by saving them from their pain.
3️⃣ By taking care of ourselves, we're ultimately able to pick and choose who we want to give our energy to. If we're giving to everybody, we don't have enough energy, time and emotional resources to give to the people that we really want to give to–sometimes that becomes our children, those closest to us, or even ourselves
Nobody likes being told no, and when you tell somebody no, it often upsets them. Don't worry about it. They will get over it. They may not like it, but they will. So give yourself permission to take back your energy!
