Why You Need to Say NO as an Empath

Written By Laura Zane

As empaths we have a really hard time with saying no, with putting ourselves first, and giving too much of our time. 😅

I want you to work on being THE BAD GUY. I want you to work on feeling uncomfortable.

Scary, I know, and that might seem counterintuitive, but the reason I want you to work on feeling uncomfortable is because often we can't say no because boundaries are hard for us. Saying no is not easy for empath, it’s the last thing we want to do EVER and we struggle with it because it is hard for us to disappoint others.

As empaths, when we say no, we can often feel the other person's disappointment. Those emotions can be confusing to us and they can make it difficult, because on one hand we want to be able to say no, but on the other hand, we feel the other person's disappointment and pain and we want to help them avoid that. This causes us a lot of times to say yes, even when it's not in our best interest. 🥴

Work on being the bad guy, allowing it to be okay for you to not feel like you are the hero, or the savior, or the person that somebody can rely on.

Laura Zane

Laura Zane is a licensed mental health counselor, holistic therapist, and the founder of Sage Synergy Counseling and Wellness, providing online therapy throughout Florida. She specializes in working with highly sensitive, neurodivergent, intuitive, and empathic women navigating anxiety, depression, burnout, and trauma. Laura is done with the idea that sensitivity is a weakness and brings warmth, depth, and a whole lot of real talk to her work, blending CBT, mindfulness, spirituality, and alternative approaches to help women understand their nervous systems, honor who they are, and build lives that actually work for them. As a highly sensitive and neurodivergent person herself, she gets it from the inside out. She serves clients across Sarasota, Bradenton, Lakewood Ranch, Tampa, Naples, and throughout Florida via telehealth. When she is not in session, you will probably find her advocating loudly for the idea that sensitivity is a superpower, not a flaw.

https://www.sagesynergy.net
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